Zakynthos’ broken ring affair: Why it affected me so much?

* Because my wedding ring, symbol of my union in Church, got broken only 6 months after the religious ceremony and on top of that, the jeweler was accusing me of not taking care of it. * Because our wedding was so beautiful and the only thing that stained it was the memory of missing diamonds fallen off from the ring. And this happened twice. * Because of the way the jeweler managed this unfortunate situation, chasing me with a lawyer and threatening to sue me for slandering in case I was not stopping ‘the illegal behavior” of telling my story on my blog. * Because the jeweler was blaming me, when they had done a very poor repair job. Ring lost again two diamonds one month later after the repair. * Because the jeweler outrageously claimed that repair was done properly and at high standards of quality. Meanwhile I was looking in despair at my ring with two diamonds broken and lost and all of this after one month after the “marvelous” repair. * Because the jeweler threatened to sue me of slandering if I had not removed my blog post that was telling my experience with his company * Because jeweler kept insisting that it was my fault that the ring broke in the first place. I am not sure how he comments the reason for breaking the second time after the “so called’ repairBecause the jeweler kept […]

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Plutesc si zambesc

Acum catva timp simteam ca plutesc fara directie. Mare lucru nu s-a schimbat intre timp. Inca plutesc fara directie, inca nu am obiective clare sau vreo misiune anume, inca nu stiu incotro ma indrept. Insa de data asta nu ma mai tracasez atata ci doar ma bucur de moment. In loc de nori gri ploiosi care tronau deasupra capului meu, acum e soare si cer senin. Sunt ca o pasaruica ce zboara cand ici cand colo fara sa stie exact unde se duce, descopera una alta si se minuneaza apoi iar porneste intr-un zburat pe ici-colo. Sunt ca un fluture care se lasa purtat de vant. Descopar flori si floricele, ma umplu de mireasma, zambesc. Nu ma mai zbat ci las vantul sa ma duca unde o vrea.

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Unde imi e locul?

Simt ca nu imi gasesc locul. Simt o presiune pe piept care ma impiedica sa respir in voie. Nu stiu ce caut. Nu stiu unde ma indrept. Plutesc pe loc. Nu stiu in ce directie sa o iau si oricum simt ca nu am cum sa ma indrept, caci doar plutesc. Nu e pamant de care sa ma proptesc, pe care sa imi incordez muschii picioarelor ca sa ma deplasez. Plutesc in nestire. Iar lucrul acesta ma destabilizeaza.  O nemultumire aproape continua ma salasluieste. Oscilez intre manie si deprima. Un discurs continuu negativ nu imi da pace mai ales cand sunt singura, doar eu cu mine. Pe alocuri zambesc si ma exaltez de cei din jur. Uneori uit de manie si de deprima. Uit atunci cand dansez sau cand sunt in compania celor ce imi sunt dragi. Uit cand sunt in biserica, la slujba de duminica la care ajung mereu tarziu. Uit cand ascult sau cant colinde, cand sunt cu Ozzie la antrenament, cand decorez si bricolez, cand cos si creez. Uit cand vorbesc cu ceilalti. Sunt nelinistita caci nu imi gasesc locul. Nu stiu care imi e menirea. Nu stiu unde ma indrept. Daca m-ar intreba cineva azi – Unde m-as vedea in 5 ani?, n-as stii ce sa ii raspund. Presupun ca pe pamant, cu un tel si o directie anume.

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What annoys me when driving in Belgium

Is there a roundabout? Most of the Belgian drivers that I noticed in roundabouts do not indicate when they leave the roundabout. And to annoy me even more, recently a Belgian policeman told me that in Belgium it is not compulsory to indicate left when you drive around the roundabout and you intend to take the second or following exit. Priority of right. This driving rule is applied in an ad-hoc matter. Sometimes it is respected and sometimes not. You never know when the driver coming from your right will apply or not the rule. Sometimes there have “give way’ marking on the lane coming from your right, but the driver just decides to apply the priority of right even if it is not applicable. Or if the driver has indeed priority of right, just goes through the croasroad with high speed, not taking into account that he/she as well has to respect the priority of right and give way. Drivers that decide that a roundabout is a croasroad. Many times I saw drivers going round a roundabout and then deciding to stop and give priority to cars entering the roundabout. So priority of right was applied when it is not supposed to. Changing lanes on the motorway? Why should they indicate it? Many times I saw cars driving in front of me and not bothering to indicate when changing lanes. And if they do indicate, it only after they […]

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Michalopoulos’ surrealistic customer care: The outraging story of a wedding ring found on the beautiful island of Zakynthos

Little did I know that morning that the trip to Zante town would conclude with my wedding ring. It was our second year we were back to Zakynthos island (Greece). We were so happy to be there, continuing our holiday from where we left it a year earlier. I don’t know why I started to look at the jewelry shops and wedding rings. Back in Belgium, there are so many trustworthy jewelers, especially in Antwerp, the city of diamonds. But for some reason, I did. And I kept looking and trying on various rings until I found the one: a beautiful Eternity 18 karat ring with 14 diamonds. It was elegant, not too thick and not too slim. And it had the same princess type of diamonds as my engagement ring. More than that, I quickly associated the 14 diamonds to the year we would get married: 2014. I asked for the price. Well, it was very pricy. We had no experience of prices for diamond wedding rings. We knew they were expensive, but not to what extent. Plus, I had some doubts, as we were … well … in Greece. Food is great, people are charming, beaches are sandy and the sun is excellent, but Greece is not particularly known as a place for things that are well made or built to last. Plus, I had heard of various stories with Greek sellers, promising even the moon from the […]

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Adminisitratia belgiana – Ce placere!

Cu ce placere ma duc de fiecare data la commune, adica la primarie! Doar ca sa reinnoiesc cartea ‘de riverain’ am mers deja de doua ori. M-am prezentat zambitoare la primarie, optimista, neimaginandu-mi ca ceva ar putea sa fie anapoda. Aveam la mine actele care imi fusesera comunicate prin telefon. Ce mai, totul va merge ca pe roate! Am intrebat de biroul cu pricina. Am nimerit la altul, nu-i problema, doamna de la ghiseu mi-a dat indicatiile biroului destinatie. L-am gasit, aa, era in spatele meu. Nu-i problema. Mi-am luat biletul de ordine, cel putin exista acest sistem de bilete care sa mearcheze randul la coada, caci in Romania nu am vazu inca asa ceva. Mi-am asteptat cuminte randul, cel putin pe scaun, si nu la o coada unde se imbulzeau unii si altii. Apoi dupa vreo 40 minute de asteptare, mi-a venit si mie in sfarsit randul. Zambitoare, m-am prezentat cu actele necesare (cel putin dupa cum imi fusese comunicat). Apoi, zambitor, cel de a ghiseu mi-a mai cerut inca un document. M-am intors acasa sa il iau. Am stat iar la coada, iar mi-a venit randul. Aaa, aveti masina cu leasing, pai mai trebuie un act. Asa ca urmeaza sa merg curand si a treia oara. Pana una alta sper ca documentul suplimentar pe care il astept de la angajatorul meu sa vina la timp, ca sa nu imi expire cartea de riveran. Altfel e foarte posibil sa […]

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Consultant sau contractor = resursa de aruncat la cerere sau la nevoie

Unele companii lucreaza cu multi consultanti sau contractori pe care ii angajeaza pe perioade determinate ca sa lucreze pe diverse proiecte (in general IT) unde au nevoie de resurse cu profile de lucru specializate. E si cazul uneia dintre companiile pentru care am lucrat. Am remarcat multe discrepante intre consultanti si angajati, consultantii primind uneori un tratament extrem de dur. Consultantul este aruncat imediat la apa in mijlocul proiectelor, fara nici un handover, aproape fara nicio explicatie. Swim baby, otherwise you’ll drown! Asteptarea din partea clientului este enorma iar rezultatele sunt asteptate rapid. Angajatul insa, are perioada de acomodare, are handover, are suport, poate invata.. etc. Daca unui angajat ii ia pana la 6 luni sa intealeaga cum merg rotile corporative si apoi sa dea rezultate, consultantul trebuie sa accelereze monstru partea de invatare si sa livreze deja daca se poate din prima saptamana de cand a fost angajat. Consultantul cu greu isi poate planifica viata personala, mai ales cei care trebuie sa isi mute resedinta pentru a lucra pentru firma – client care ii cumpara serviciile. Contractul initial pe 6 luni, poate fi prelungit din luna in luna sau o data la 2 luni. Iar planificarea personala e greu de facut cand nu stii de la o luna la alta, daca te intorci la Londra sau ramai la Bruxelles. E si cazul unei cunostinte de-a mea care nu stia daca sa isi anunte proprietarul ca pleaca din apartamentul in […]

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Baby present contribution dilemma for twins … 5 or 10 euro?

One of my colleagues became a father for the first time. His wife blessed him with twins. As usual, my colleagues want to congratulate the father and make a nice gesture by buying and signing a card and raising some money for a small gift for the newborn(s). Since there are two babies instead of one, the question is – How much money should they contribute towards? With 5 euro – the usual agreed contribution within the team or with 10 euro, as there are twins? What a dilemma! I don’t know if I should laugh or not. … Even in Romania, where average revenues are usually a lot smaller than in Belgium, people would contribute with more than 5 euros for the gift for a new born. Cultural differences, I suppose.

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Nu vin, nu dau la cadou! Contributia colegilor belgieni la cadoul de nunta.

Nunta la belgieni este pentru mine o controversa. Cu atat mai mult, cadoul pentru colegii care se casatoresc. Diferentele culturale sunt clare si ma tot frapeaza, desi dupa atatia ani, ar fi trebuit sa ma fi obisnuit. O colega de-a mea se casatoreste, si precum se practica in echipa i-am anuntat pe ceilalti colegi ca strangem bani pentru cadoul ei de nunta. Cum Belgia e excesiv de scumpa (comparativ cu Romania de exemplu), nunta se tine peste hotare, in tara miresei. In Belgia, tara mirelui, se tine doar un cocktail ca sa se sarbatoreasca evenimentul. Dupa cum spuneam, am pus mana de la mana cu cei de la munca sa ii facem un cadou (banesc) fetei. Am luat si o felicitare, unde lumea doar s-a semnat, caci pentru colegii mei belgieni e prea complicat sa scrie o urare sau sa se gandeasca la niste cuvinte frumoase. Revenind la colecta pentru cadou. Eu am pus 25 de euro, caci mi se pare o suma rezonabila pentru invitatia la cocktail. Ceilalti colegi? Ce sa zic decat altceva decat diferente culturale. Eu eram cea care strangea banii si nu de cateva ori am ramas uimita de controversatele raspunsuri primite si de sumele ridicole de participare la cadou. Mai jos cateva raspunsuri si ‘contributii la cadou’: “Pai eu nu vin, asa ca dau mai putin” (Suma data: 5 euro)  “Pai eu s-ar putea sa vin dar s-ar putea si sa nu vin, asa ca nu […]

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Wake up, woman! Grow up!

The more I was listening to her complaining about her miserable life, the angrier I was getting as I could see how much she was digging herself into sorrow and covering herself with shit. I wanted to slap her, to shake her really hard and yell at her – “Wake up, woman! Stop whinning! “Your life is not that bad as you say so. You’ve achieved wonderful things! Stop making your life seem that hard, that horrible! You were used to living on satin cushons, have others solving your issues, not taking risks and not being responsible for your life! Grow up! So what you’re thirty and single? So what you’re getting divorced? So what you are not fulfilled by your job? So what you don’t have a car? It is not up to me to find solutions. Although I did it so many times! I am just sick and tired of giving you advice, finding alternatives and hearing you complaining all the time, despite of all my efforts! I am sick of trying to find solutions for you and every time have them thrown away for some stupid reasons  that you invent just to sabotage yourself and demonstrate how hard life is with you. It’s taking too much of my energy!I am sick of hearing you saying all the time – “Yes, but…”, “If I had this/ if I had”… Although you don’t know it, YOU have enough ressources […]

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Obiectez si ma revolt!

1 – Aschia nu sare departe de trunchi O vorba din popor spune ca “aschia nu sare departe de trunchi”. Eu adaug ca trunchiul ar trebui sa fie mandru de aschia sa si ar trebui sa o incurajeze sa ajunga mai departe. E dureros totusi cand trunchiul e in competitie cu aschia si ar face orice numai ca aschia sa nu reuseasca sa se desprinda de pe trunchi si nici sa sara. 2 – Paradox de management à la Focsani Paradox de management: pe de o parte managerul reproseaza subalternilor ca nu au rezultate si ca businessul merge prost, ca nu muncesc si ca nu se implica destul; pe de alta parte acelasi manager respinge subalternilor toate propunerile, toate proiectele si toate initiativele, fara a da vreun argument decent. Ce solutie au subalternii? Ce pot ei dezvolta? E ca si cum ai taia picioarele cuiva si apoi i-ai reprosa ca nu are rezultate la curse.

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