Are you ready for a change? Don’t wait for a burn-out to actually change something

A few years ago, I was asking myself towards which direction I could shift my career. I remember that it was winter time, that it was dark and grey and that I was feeling extremely tired. Actually I was exhausted, very lonely, discouraged, feeling very down and I was hugely missing the human side in my work. I was struggling every day at work and I was struggling every day at home. Back then, I was working in IT and I was feeling drained. Drained of energy, drained of motivation, drained of perspectives, drained of my resources. Everything seemed an effort. Back then I was not aware that due to repeated work excesses, I had dangerously exceeded the boundaries of my safety limits, that my inner resources were running low in the red zone and that I was dangerously approaching the last stage of a burn-out: the collapse.

I knew myself as a fighter and I was perseverent. But too much use of your strengths transforms into a weakness or more to the point, it becomes damaging for you. I was unable to let go and unable to change much of my life-style. And I had not much control over what I could change in my work. Or at least this is what I was perceiving.

I knew myself as a fighter and I was perseverent.

Looking for answers and knowing that I was needing help, I went to see a coach, trying to find out towards which direction I could take my professional life. It was a career coach, whith whom I followed a pre-set program that consisted of a series of sessions combining coaching with expertise, targeting a career change. It was not coaching per se, but a mix, following a certain method, but that was enough to open my eyes that I was working in the wrong place. Well, deep down I was sensing that my competences and talents were not appreciated and that I was giving too much, compared to what I was receiving back. My emotional response was telling me exactly this, but back then I was unable to understand my emotional outbursts.

In any case, I knew that I could no longer continue like that. And I remember that during one of those coaching-expertise mix sessions, I thought to myself… hmm, maybe I could do this one day. In that moment, a seed was planted.

But it was too late.

Not long afterwards, after various medical tests, a doctor wrote the diagnose of burn-out on a piece of paper and then an extremely long journey of darkness began. I did not know when it would end and I did not know up to which point it would change my life. And although for a long time I did not know when and where I would work again, I knew that I wanted to work closely with people, to be there for them, to support them through all my talents. I just did not know when, where and how.

New beginnings

To cut the long story short, last year in March, I decided to make the big step towards an official coaching traning, accredited by the International Coaching Federation. I had previously followed coaching attitude trainings, I had read books and articles about coaching, coached some of my friends and I had even designed and delivered a coaching attitude training, so starting a long-term certifying coaching training seemed like a logical progression.

And in order to celebrate reaching the end of my one-year training and to mark a new beginning, I am offering a bundle of 6 free individual coaching sessions to anyone in need. The subjects approached in the coaching journey are determined solely by the client and could be related to personal life, work-life balance, well-being, transitions, stress management, burn-out prevention, life-transition or anything else that is potentially challenging or would require a change.

Very important – and I cannot not stress this enough – to anyone new to coaching, please understand that coaching is not psycho-therapy, coaching is not advise giving, healing trauma or providing consultancy.

As per Coach Federation, “Coaching is partnership (defined as an alliance, not a legal business partnership) between the Coach and the Client in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires the client to maximise personal and professional potential. It is designed to facilitate the creation/development of personal, professional or business goals and to develop and carry out a strategy/plan for achieving those goals. “

I learned a lot through the past year about how to be a coach and I am still learning, as coaching is not only about knowing and using techniques and models, but also about presence, active listening, compassion and non-judging. As a matter of fact, there are many people who self-proclaim themselves to be a coach, on the basis of an expertise in a certain field. Nevertheless, during a coaching session, a coach is expert only in the process of coaching, whilst the client is the only expert of his or her reality.

You don’t go to a coach to tell you what to do with your life, be it pesonal or professional. You go to a coach to support you to find your own answers, your own paths and to accompany you on the path that you choose to walk.

So, are you ready for a walk? Are you ready for a change?

Please share this to support me on this path and to support that friend/relative/colleague who is now in need of support.

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Author: Gabriela D. Spencer

Woman. Soul of an Artist. Writer. Wife. Dancer. Entrepreneur to be. Spirit. Light. Colour. Friend. Daughter. Sister. Thinker. Multi-potential. Multi-options. ISFP (according to the latest tests, but who knows). I write and express myself whenever my mind is bursting with thoughts and doesn’t give me peace. Read me mostly in Romanian and sometimes in English.

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